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10 Dating Profile Photo Mistakes You Should Avoid

I’ve previously wrote an article for Love Out Loud Asia and I’ve decided to share the post here on my own blog. Let me know if you’re interested in this sort of posts, maybe I’ll write more!


 

I cannot emphasize how important a dating profile photo is when it comes to online dating. First impression is based on that one photo. It is also the main factor whether you will get approached/a reply or not.

A good profile photo is simply one that shows the features of a person clearly, preferably mid shot so that we can also see the built of the person from photos. But most of the time a clear shot of the face is good enough.

But today, I’m going to talk about the many mistakes people make in choosing a profile photo. These are also things that irritate the hell out of me and I believe many others out there too..

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1. Motor Vehicles

So you drive a posh car or a mighty motor bike and you think that you will impress people by putting it up as your profile photo. People want to talk to people, and not things like vehicles. And it’s only a photo, what proof do you have that it’s yours? I usually ignore profiles like these, and if I do reply, it will be directed to the vehicle, “That’s some nice wheels you have there”.

2. Duck faces

This applies to both guys and girls. Maybe some of you think it’s cute to wrinkle up your features and make a duck face. And by putting that as your profile photo, you will get many people commenting on how cute you are. I mean if it’s a friend or my other half making a duck face I might think it’s cute. But a stranger making a duck face? I think I’ll pass.

3. Group Photo

I don’t know, maybe some people just find it weird to take a self shot. That’s why they just upload a group photo as a profile photo. So which one are you? Guess? It’s extremely annoying if I actually bothered to talk to you despite that and you ask me to guess and find you in that group photo.

4. Sunglasses

I know many people find themselves looking super cool with sunglasses on. I don’t deny that, as I do think so too. What are you hiding behind those glasses? Is it because your eyes are too small or did you just got punched in the eye? Eyes are the most important feature on the face. There’s a reason for the saying: “The eyes are the windows to our soul.” So take those glasses off!

5. Carrying a child/pet

Ok, maybe carrying a pet isn’t that bad not unless the pet is covering your face. If you have a super adorable pet, you might even score with it. The problem lies with carrying a child. “Ermm, so is that your son/daughter?”

6. A couple photo with the opposite gender

So you’re on a dating site and you put up a dubious photo of you with someone of the opposite gender. On the record, I never replied to people with such profile photos.

7. Side Profiles

This I do not understand. Alright, maybe you have a super handsome/gorgeous side profile but I would very much prefer a full frontal photo. Or maybe you’re too shy to look into a camera?

8. Landscape with or without a silhouette

Travelling is your hobby and you love to share that lovely scenery with people. Sometimes, we get to see a nice silhouette shot. Thanks for showing that nice photo, but nope, I’m not talking to a silhouette.

9. Topless

Who are you trying to impress? I don’t deny that sometimes we ladies like to admire some abs but not when we are actually on a lookout for a decent guy to date. Please put on some clothes.

10. Cleavage

This is for the ladies. Come on girl, what are you thinking when you put up that photo with full view of your cleavage as your profile photo?

You are just trying to attract the wrong attention and you complain of meeting only perverts on dating sites.

As long as you avoid these mistakes in your dating profile, I’m sure your online dating experience will be a smoother one. Well at the very least, you definitely stand more chances to get a reply!

XOXO,
Joyce.Forensia

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LOVE OUT LOUD ASIA

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LOLA for short, Love Out Loud Asia is the latest Online Dating site offering that you singles out there (me included) can try out for a chance at love.

Unlike the many others online dating sites (trust me, I have tried most of the free online dating site/apps out there), LOLA is different in the way that you do no need to create a Profile! Rejoice!

I for one, hated the profile making segment. I mean, even if I bother to create a proper profile stating all information. There’s still some weird people who say hi based on photos alone without reading your profile. And it gets annoying when they start asking questions which answers can be already found in the profile.

Hence, I’m really glad that there’s no need to crack my brains over creating a proper profile. I just need to sign up through Facebook, and my information will be kept confidential. FYI, you can only sign up through Facebook at the moment. I believed it is to verify you as a real person and prevent you from cooking up stories and faking to be someone you’re not. And they assured that they will not post anything on your FB and I trust them for that. ( LOLA is a local start up so if they ever do post anything on my FB, I guess I can just complain directly to them. Haha.)

This is also great for people who prefers a little privacy while trying to look for some love. 🙂

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I actually like their tagline very much. “Online Dating for people who hate Online Dating.”

It’s really tiring to look through profiles, and to process them to look for one that appeal to you, then deciding if you should say hi. Sometimes, I just wait for people to say hi and whether I reply is another story. Haha. It’s just narrowing the choosing process to those who took initiative.

At LOLA, all we have to do is to think of a date idea, post it up and wait! One match will be sent to you at noon everyday and you can choose to like or pass. I just signed up yesterday and got a match at noon today. Sadly, it’s a Pass. Ok, I must admit I’m a little picky. But I got a surprise after I clicked on Pass as you get to feedback what you do not like about the match. Which I think LOLA will take into considerations and prevents sending a similar match. I will say that’s a nice touch! (I like the fact that I get to choose that the match is too short for my liking. Many a times when you strike a conversation with people that seems ok and only to find out their height is either shorter than you or same. It’s just disappointing and I hate to waste time. Yes, height is a very important factor to me.) 

You have an option to update your profile and change either your date preference or date ideas. Which is good as sometimes, you need to change things up a little if you are never getting a match of your liking.

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Here’s a look at the user stats of LOLA currently which is pretty informative. Though I’m sad to see that the percentage of guys are lesser which means lesser chance of a match of the ladies. So guys, do try out LOLA. 😛 At least balance out the ratio right? Haha.

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At the moment, you can only access LOLA on the computer but no fret for those people on the go. They are releasing their mobile apps on both iOS and Android soon in November so look out for it!

Let’s hope I get lucky with LOLA.

Do check out LOLA’s FB PAGE too! They post date ideas by users on their FB and some are really interesting and cute!

XOXO,
Joyce.Forensia (Single and Available) 😛

*Disclaimer*:This is supposed to be a short shout out and not an advert. I did not received any monetary gains in return. It just happens that I can relate as I’m an avid user of online dating apps, that’s why the long post. Plus the folks at LOLA were really friendly. I did received a $10 e-voucher for Dressabelle in appreciation but I’ve no use for it so if you want it, PM me and I’ll send the code in your way!*

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Things I look out in a man

Before I go on about the list, I shall first state that I’m a super superficial person.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder or something along the line, does not applies to me. Don’t tell me that as long as you love the person, it does not matter tall, short, fat, skinny. Why don’t you go date any Tom, Dick, Harry then?

Friends around me would say I’ve super high expectations which I agree.

Why settle for less?

If you expect A, don’t settle for B or C just simply because everyone around you is getting attached or married.

Imagine settling down with a B or C and then you met A. Regrets, and maybe cheating will come in place. All sorts of problems come along. And the poor B or C will be hurt.

Definitely, you have to search through the many Bs and Cs to finally find your A. But that doesn’t mean you are allowed to give false hope to the other party if your feelings aren’t mutual.

Then comes the questions, do you find someone you love more or someone who loves you more? The perfect answer will be finding someone who loves you as much but to be honest how high is this possibility?

For me, I rather someone whom I love more. At least he’s someone I wanted and I will be happier. If it’s someone who loves me more, I think I will just keep picking on his flaws simply because I don’t love him as much?

Hence, rather lead a carefree single life then wasting my time and B or C’s time while I continue my search for A.

Well, I guessed I’ve made my point. So let’s move on to the actual expectations.

HEIGHT

I’m pretty blessed to be have a height of 1.68m and I love my heels no matter how much they bite me. I’m also pretty sure no guys would actually not mind their girlfriends taller than them right? The ideal height I look out for would be 1.78m min to about 1.9m? Anything taller, I don’t think I want to look up all day, my poor neck.

I like pretty guys and manly ones of course. I just have a soft spot for pretty charming looking guys. You know those 美男子 category kind of guys?  A perfect example, would be my idol Danson Tang. Pretty handsome man whom is muscular at the same time. By muscular I mean fit, like lean muscular and not the huge muscle man type. Best is have 6 packs abs or at least some form of abs or flat tummy.

I don’t really like guys who’re too tanned. Not that I’m not attracted to tanned good looking guys. But I’m like pretty fair and taking photos beside a tanned person shows too stark a difference in skin tones.

Best is those who just happen to not get tanned no matter how long they stay under the sun. LOL.

But of course, though I prefer fair guys don’t mean I won’t fall for tanned guys. 😛

INTELLIGENCE

Ok, this is pretty important. He needs to be able to hold intellectual conversations. IQ and EQ should both be on the high side. I’m not a super smart person, so I would like someone smarter than me at least. I cannot handle someone that is least smart. Ask me stupid questions and I’ll say bye bye.

He must know a lot but that does not means that he can be arrogant. I’m pretty much a clumsy person and he needs to be able to look out for me. 😛

MATURITY/AGE

I for once, cannot stand childish guys. This does not equals to age, but rather the mindset. However, I don’t think I’m able to accept guys that are more than 7 years older than me. Maximum 7 years older and I don’t think I can accept younger unless he proves to be mature.

He needs to know what he wants in life and have a clear plan of the future. He don’t have to be super rich but he needs to know how to handle his money. He needs to be decisive. I think that guys who works hard in their career are super attractive.

OTHERS

I like guys to be in control but that doesn’t mean he can be possessive.

I really hope that my future partner is able to play a musical instrument. I think that guys who are talented in music are super duper attractive.

He needs to like cats. I personally love cats and if he’s someone who hate cats, I don’t think I will like him very much either. Ok, to be fair, he don’t have to like them, but he has to be ok/neutral with them.

He cannot interfere with my way of life. Meaning, trying to change me or trying to stop me from having my time with my friends. Trying to change me is definitely a no-no. I will never give up friends for a guy, but I will definitely allocated more time for my future partner.

He cannot be selfish or petty. I think it’s a major turn off.

The list can go on and on. But I’m going to be stopping here. Somehow I feel, I’m describing Mr Non-Existent/ Mr Only appear in my dreams. LOL.

Probably, many of you might say that I’ve high expectations. But if it’s a guy that I might be spending my life with, I cannot anyhow right?

To be honest, there was a point of time in my life where there’s this guy which I like a lot. He pretty much match most of the things I’ve listed down. The sad thing is, he belongs to someone else. One sided love – story of my life. The other sad thing is, he still has a small little space in my heart. And it’d been 3 years.

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I keep telling myself, I deserve better. And I’ll wait for the best man for me to appear. I believe that one day, he will appear.

XOXO,
Joyce.Forensia

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